Even if he is your future, it's still important to have more people in your life than one. Not paying attention to early warning signs or thinking that they don't really matter. It's good to let the little things slide, but if you're letting every annoying as hell thing he does slide, you won't realize that you don't actually like him that much. You deserve a legit night out that he actually planned for both of you.
Quite frankly, that applies to being in the relationship iself, too. Maybe it means you have to deal with his neat-freak tendencies, or perhaps you earn more than he does. See above, but also the way he talks about his female friends or even just the way he talks about Mindy Kaling or Lena Dunham; all of it adds up and speaks volumes. (I have done this and I am very smart, but also: abs.)4. But it's 100 percent not going to go anywhere if you don't spend a tiny bit more time and energy on it.5. Not thinking it's weird that you never hang out with his friends. Meeting a guy's friends is so important because if they're jerks, he's probably a secret jerk too. Going back to the same guy who treats you like shit over and over again. Let me tell you something, the search is in fact terrible. If he's just agreeing to show up somewhere, he's not making much effort. If anything, she was probably a "whore" you'd get along with and you could bond over the sexist idiot you both dated. Not paying attention to the way he talks about other women. You're working, you're busy, you don't have 24 hours a day to put into some relationship that might not go anywhere. You're better off just joining online groups built around a shared love of like I definitely didn't. Keeping a guy around way too long because it was so hard to find a decent guy and you don't want to have to go through The Search again.If you are constantly comparing your relationship to that of a fairy tale and expect everything to be perfect, then you are bound to disappoint yourself and ruin your relationship.First things like the ‘first kiss,’ ‘flowers,’ and ‘our song,’ can be overrated.