Contrary to what many men believe, most women don’t enjoy turning someone down. Because of this, women try to reject others “gently” to protect themselves.
And it can lead to uncomfortable or even dangerous situations.
Before you utter a reluctant yes to yet another request, find out why the "sure, no problem" habit is so powerful and how to break it (and not feel guilty). The reasons guys and girls don't react the same way to requests are both socially sanctioned and biologically driven.
\n You let a friend crash on your couch indefinitely.Wanting to avoid hurt feelings or embarrassing the other person is a deeply ingrained social norm.Saying no to someone can be so uncomfortable for some that it’s just plain easier to say yes.As much as we wish we could, we can't accept all swaps that come our way.And while it can be tempting to just ignore any swap requests that don't take your fancy - remember, there's another person at the other end of your computer excited to swap with you. Swapping is a little bit like dating: If you're just not that interested, you're both better off being honest, so no one wastes their time.