I found I could train myself to see more beauty than bother, to set my internal barometer to be more compassionate than callous.
But I also discovered that with each day, my heart and soul grew more open to seeing this beauty than at any other time in my life.
Many spouse caregivers talk about the loneliness of being a caregiver – even, or perhaps especially, when their spouse is right there with them.
Amy Krouse Rosenthal, if you're not familiar with her work, is a bestselling author.Several months ago, during a town hall, Hillary Clinton was asked about her faith.She spoke about daily meditations that her faith adviser offers her and said that one has become a touchstone for her. I had never thought about the lessons of Bill’s illness in quite that way but as soon as I heard it, I realized that that’s just what I had been doing those months: I had been training myself to be grateful.The work in question is an essay written for the New York Times titled "You May Want to Marry My Husband." Because this woman has been married for over two decades, and she is such an unbelievable gem that she's spending some of her last moments looking out for her husband. "I have been trying to write this for a while," she begins, "but the morphine and lack of juicy cheeseburgers (what has it been now, five weeks without real food?) have drained my energy and interfered with whatever prose prowess remains." "Still," she writes, "I have to stick with it, because I'm facing a deadline, in this case, a pressing one.