What is your new life going to look like, and how do you start moving in that direction?
Here are eight of the first steps: Nobody gets married thinking, "I sure hope we can get divorced someday!
The majority immediately scramble to salvage their marriages, citing family or finances, prepared to agree to anything to keep their world in tact.
Often this is in reaction to the shock, and not being prepared.
I don’t suggest wallowing or self-pity, but I do encourage acceptance. Let your loneliness become a bridge between you and God and rely on Him for the strength and the grace to get through this part of your life and realize the joy that will come when the loneliness ends.
It is not wrong to feel lonely, nor is it a sign of weakness. Tags: break-ups Catholic community discernment Divorce expectations faith family friendship healing hope loneliness patience prayer psalms reflection Relationships Scripture spirituality Volunteering Author and speaker Lisa Duffy has 20 years of both personal and professional experience in helping others deal with their divorces.
But much of this too is to avoid the complex array of losses and challenges divorce presents a man.
Many of these losses though, are a result men’s typical, if not default, role within marriage of being the financial provider.
Maybe you're relieved, maybe you're heartbroken -- or a bit of both.
I eventually told her everything and that was the end. My only hope is that by sharing my story it may help someone else that is going through the same hell that I faced. Self-reflection: Reflect on who you are, who you want to be, and why you are where you are. Being able to face them, recognize them for what they truly are, and rid yourself of them is not an easy task. I would try to answer questions about my feelings and things I had learned and/or experienced.
When we separated it literally felt like my life was ending. I lost 50 lbs in about 3 months (about 1/5 of my body weight – and I’m very tall). I truly understood why monks are required to live a life of solitude and silence while in seminary – it forces you to face yourself. You are only left with your own thoughts and self-reflection. Simply going through this practice opened my eyes to so many things I had not recognized about myself and the world around me.
One of the greatest crosses to bear during divorce is loneliness.
Although intangible, loneliness is just as difficult as bearing the burden of an illness.