There is a myth—an urban legend really—among many dating individuals today that goes like this: If I date him (or her) and it doesn’t work out, it will be awkward in our social scene. It’s kept women from showing interest or saying yes to certain men asking them on a date.
And dare I say, its perhaps delayed or even prevented some “happily ever afters.” My friends’ wedding, and the attendance of their exes, proves this myth to be just that.
But if you’re stuck in an online dating rut and searching for love in your immediate surroundings, it’s really only natural that your eyes will rest first on the person you’re closest to.
Let’s face it, meeting singles in day-to-day life is otherwise pretty hard.
The initial hours on day one of Tinder friend-making were exciting, confusing, and hectic. Intellectual with glasses, 27, multiple flag emojis (inferring multilingualism)? Irrationally, of course, because neither of us were trying to sleep with the other.
I've sat in the passenger seat of the "swipe left, swipe right" phenomenon with single friends before, but this time I was driving. Our chat had graduated from Tinder to Facebook Messenger, meaning I knew he was legitimate, and the days of preceding conversation lined up with who he was in real life. Tinder Friend Date number two went similarly, and had you asked me at this point how my experiment was going, I would have replied: "Easiest. Ever." That was until I got stood up by Tinder Friend Date number three.
It was a lesson many of the other guests took note of.It felt terribly uncomfortable choosing possible future friends based on their looks. Communication with me – which had been responsive and timely for 10 days – ceased 30 minutes prior to our organised meet-up.I felt dismissive and judgmental from the outset, but knew it was part of the game and the only way to progress forward. Nonchalantly sipping my sad glass of wine alone, I knew then he was never to be heard from again.Here at Elite Singles, our mission is to help you find people with whom you share a deeper connection.But what if you already have that special someone in your life?