The best opening lines for online dating come from your gut.This girl had a picture with an adorable little puppy.Remember, that’s why she wrote it – because she wants you to get to know her, not because she wants to be told for the umpteenth time that she’s hot. NOT the thing you like the most, NOT the thing you find most attractive, NOT the thing you have in common. It might be how she doesn’t know how to program her Ti Vo. Yes, you think it’s cool that she also likes Robert De Niro movies and skiing in Vail. The sillier and more over-the-top your email, the funnier it’ll be.Men who treat women as unique and interesting individuals stand a much greater shot of receiving a response. The most interesting tidbit in her profile is the thing that sounds like it couldn’t have been written by anybody else in the world. Whatever it is, take her quirky tidbit and turn it into your pickup line. The most effective way to catch someone’s attention in an initial email is with fiction. Because the truth, as we’ve established, is boring. But does any of that sound like a good pickup line to you? A good joke doesn’t require an explanation – it’s obviously a joke.Some respond well to cocky, edgy openers some see right through that and call you out. Drone- this is the hardest for me because these girls want to keep everything boring and their profiles give you nothing to work with.Ultimately 90% of it comes down to what you look like. Just cuts the bullshit since all that matters most the time is your look. I'm black and the majority of the women on each site weren't. I try to pick out one incongruent detail and hope that she will emerge from her shell.I don't have any "proven" first messages, but one of my friends is successful and he just writes, "hey" or "sup" in his first message. I'm black and the majority of the women on each site weren't. However, if you're doing mass messaging like I do then you simply can't take the time do break down each girl's profile unless you want to make an afternoon out of it.It's the second message that he uses to really get them interested. One that ALWAYS ensured a reply back was "I hope you aren't racist". I guess they always replied so that they could validate themselves somewhat so that they don't feel guilty or racist if they didn't reply. The line I've been using to message chicks is: "Hey I checked out your profile and you seem cool. " By saying I checked out their profile it implies that I did actually check them out which I didn't, I just look at their pictures.
Then, 22 percent of Hinge users received various conversation-starters to choose from.The thing is, even if she’s interesting, she most likely wrote a whole bunch of clichés in her profile: “I’m nice, smart, kind, warm, funny, honest and family-oriented. I’m looking for my best friend, lover and partner in crime for a lifetime of love and laughter.” (Scary how easy it is to approximate the typical online dating profile, isn’t it? Even a specific response like “I noticed you enjoy biking. For example, if you’re writing to the foot model, you might say: Let’s drink to our fashion careers, Evan Sure, it’s a little goofy, but people actually respond to this stuff. Because it’s different, it’s audacious and, in a strange way, it’s kind of smart. It’s not an idle compliment or a generic, “Ooh, look what we have in common” line. Start your comment in the subject heading of the email, like this… Talk to you soon, Evan If these kinds of emails don’t work for you, no problem. Just keep in mind that the confidence it takes to write an email like that is compelling.It’s a joke and, as we all know, people like people who make them laugh. I can fix your computer, landscape your backyard and probably even hotwire your car, but, for some reason, Ti Vo programming seems to elude me as well. Playing it safe is fine, but if an attractive person has dozens, if not hundreds, of options, you need to shake things up a little bit to break through the clutter. Interesting piece, which I’ll have to parse at length when I have the time…but it leads me to throw out a theory I’ve been kicking around.I will say this though, if it's a dating site that has in its messaging service a subject line, I like to put a cliff hanger in there as a way of practically guaranteeing she reads my message. One that ALWAYS ensured a reply back was "I hope you aren't racist". I guess they always replied so that they could validate themselves somewhat so that they don't feel guilty or racist if they didn't reply. I go back and forth on whether asking a question or making a statement is a better opener. Maybe there's a way to get the to respond to a first message, but I think they have a lot of anxiety about in general.So rather than type "hey Anna" or something generic like that I might type, "I noticed that..." And then continue the statement in the body of your message. I just try to get their attention in the first message instead of writing a long winded specific message about something in their profile. Tailoring messages to each girl's profile is the way to go.