It is the classic example of how Partners are scammed and abused not only by their SAs, but by the therapeutic community as well.This needs [...]I received the following e-mail from a concerned partner.Our compulsions were at once our worst enemies and our most familiar sources of comfort. We learned of the twelve steps of recovery, and when we began to apply them in our lives, we discovered that we, too, could abstain from our compulsive behaviors, with the help of our fellow addicts. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other sex addicts and to practice these principles in our lives. Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon SAA unity. For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority – a loving God as expressed in our group conscience. We could no longer deny the pain that our compulsive sexual behaviors had caused in our lives. We acquired the faith and courage to make appropriate changes in our lives, and to accept our daily problems as stepping stones for spiritual growth. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern. The only requirement for SAA membership is a desire to stop addictive sexual behavior. Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or SAA as a whole. Each group has but one primary purpose – to carry its message to the sex addict who still suffers. An SAA group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the SAA name to any related facility or outside enterprise lest problems of money, property, and prestige divert us from our primary purpose. Every SAA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions. Sex Addicts Anonymous should remain forever nonprofessional, but our service centers may employ special workers. SAA, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve. Sex Addicts Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the SAA name ought never be drawn into public controversy. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, TV, and films. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities. If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are halfway through it. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. For almost a decade and a half the Married to a Sex Addict and The Sisterhood Of Support websites have been providing online Partner support; making STD testing for Partners the first priority, developing resources, exploring new treatment options and more, without funding or influence from religious groups or the sex addiction treatment industry. Here is her story of the Partner Trauma and stress that she is suffering due to her boyfriend's sex addiction.I hope that writing it and seeing it in black and white will help [...]I received this heartbreaking story in my e-mail today. He doesn’t care how many partners you’ve had; it’s all in the past. To find out the answer, fall back to the fundamentals: identifying the addict is the first step. One-night stands, extra-marital affairs, GPS hook-ups, obsessive online dating.And when it comes to sex addiction, that first step is a doozy. The list is long and gets darker the further down you go: compulsive masturbation, exhibitionism, voyeurism, prostitutes.
I am 22 years old and have had sexy multiple times. I Have a girlfriend who also loves sex so we have it together quite a bit.If someone had asked you the question “what would you do if he cheated on you?”, I bet that 99.9% of us would have answered without hesitation “I’d kill him then leave him”.The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop addictive sexual behavior.Our fellowship is open to women and men regardless of religion, race, ethnic background, marital status, sexual orientation, or profession. They are being fulfilled among us, sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. © Copyright 2007 Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc.